Setting the stage for renewal and success | stop 12 on the divorce map

Roles and responsibilities shift dramatically during separation and divorce. When coaching individuals through this transition, I encourage viewing these changes as similar to stepping into a new job. Taking a structured approach to the process of change and renewal, using goal setting, will set you up for success in this new phase of life.

Embracing your new solo role

The end of a marriage marks not just a personal but a strategic shift. Previously shared decisions are now yours alone to make. It's a daunting yet empowering transition. Think of yourself as the CEO of your own life: plotting out short-term actions while also planning for the long-term vision. This newfound independence is your platform for personal growth and self-redefinition.

Navigating renewal

Let's return to the topic of renewal. If you were going to make yourself new again, how would you be behaving and thinking? Making yourself new again is a two-part process: giving up unhelpful or outdated elements of ourselves and embracing and forging new ways of living. What is the dream or vision that you have for yourself for the long term? I strongly encourage you to take that renewed version of you and establish the right practices and approaches that will take you there, through incremental goal setting across time. The benefits will come.

Family integration and role redefinition

Goal setting isn’t just a solitary task. For those of us with children, it’s about incorporating our family into our plans. Each year, I help my children set their own goals, which fosters their development and reassures them of their importance in my life. This also teaches them about responsibility and personal growth.

Implementing SMART goals

  • To navigate your new reality effectively, SMART goals are invaluable. They provide a clear roadmap:

  • Specific: What precisely do you want to achieve? Detail the outcomes and the steps required.

  • Measurable: Establish concrete criteria for tracking progress.

  • Achievable: Set realistic targets that motivate rather than overwhelm.

  • Relevant: Align your goals with your personal values and your broader life objectives.

  • Time-Bound: Define timelines to keep you focused and driven.

Renewal and goal setting post-divorce will help transform what feels like an ending into a vibrant new beginning. If you're navigating the complexities of restructuring your life and roles, remember, this is not just about recovery but about seizing an opportunity to craft a future that truly aligns with who you are and aspire to be.

If you’re navigating through these challenges and need support, my Navigating Divorce Program is designed to help you regain control of your life. Reach out for a complimentary 15 minute call to start turning your post-divorce challenges into opportunities for growth and empowerment.

Clair Turner